Most people grow up with the assumption that they will eventually meet someone, fall in love, get married and have a family. But this does not just happen. If this is what you want in life then you are going to have to work to find it.
Chances are unless you are very lucky you will go through many different relationships before you find your special someone. Finding your sole mate is like gambling. In betting you may have to play dozens of hands until you get a winning hand, and it is the same with relationships.
During your life you will probably meet some people who seem like they may be the one, or that they are close, but still have the feeling that something else is missing. My advice is that if you are not happy, because something seems like it is missing, then it usually is not right.
Let me use the illustration of a very good friend to drive home my point.
Before Emeka (not real name) found his special someone, he was in a relationship for over 7 years, and he thought everything was great, until he started to seriously consider getting married. Then he noticed that they had so little in common and in reality wanted so many different things out of life and one day they both realized there was much about each of them that they both wanted from someone, but it was not themselves they wanted.
Then one day he decided he had enough of trying to go to clubs, eateries and bars to meet ladies. He was sick and tired of trying to find someone in the wrong place. It always seemed the ladies he would meet were all wrong for him, or they seemed great after talking to them for 5 minutes but they seemed to have no interest in him.
Then one day he had an idea, it was not an original idea but he decided to use the internet to try to find the right person for him. So he proceeded to create a facebook account. On his timeline he tried to put the real him and not the funny guy trying to be charming that was looking for a flirt or a one night stand.
And as he would at the club house hewent all in, he poured my heart and sole into that. He wrote what he wanted and all about himself, who he truly think he is and not who he wanted to be, and he was rewarded.
At first things were a little awkward for the both of him and his new found love. They decided to hold of on actually meeting until they got to know each other first. They spent a month just talking everyday on the internet. One can really open up to someone and show them the real you and not have to worry about rejection on the internet, after all you are just a faceless ghost, and if things don’t work out you could be sitting next to her on the bus one day without ever knowing it.
The key to finding happiness is realizing you are going to bust more then you are going to get blackjack, but you must keep trying, trying to remember you only need to find the real thing once.
By Emmanuel Tobechukwu Aniagoh (E.T.A)
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